By Iris Cooper | September 29, 2023 | 1 min read

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Far Far Beyond *It's the Thought That Counts*

Gift-giving, an age-old tradition that is equal parts delightful as it is daunting. We've all heard the phrase, "It's the thought that counts," but let's face it, sometimes, it feels like there wasn't much thought put into that oh-so-colorful tie or the generic scented candle. So, why do we still subscribe to this notion that the thought matters most? It's time that we take a deeper look at the intricacies of meaningful gift-giving and why it's perfectly acceptable to feel disappointed when the thought is *MIA*.
The Trouble with "It's the Thought That Counts"
I think we've all been there – the heart sinks as we unwrap a gift to reveal something that feels more like an afterthought than a heartfelt gesture. In those moments, the phrase "It's the thought that counts" can seem like a flimsy shield against the waves of disappointment. But why do we often find ourselves settling for less in the realm of gifts?
Deep down, we believe that the act of giving should be appreciated, regardless of the actual gift. It's a noble sentiment, *obvi*, and it emphasizes the importance of connection and love over materialism. But here's the catch: it doesn't mean that the thoughtless gift should go unquestioned or unacknowledged.
Why It's Okay to Feel Disappointed

Disappointment upon receiving a thoughtless gift is not a sign of ingratitude; it's a sign of valuing meaningful connections. When someone hands you a generic, last-minute gift, it can feel like they didn't put in the effort to truly understand your tastes or desires. And that stings.

It's perfectly reasonable to have expectations when it comes to gift-giving, especially among loved ones who should know you well. Feeling disappointed is a natural reaction when those expectations aren't met. It doesn't make you materialistic or shallow; it makes you human.

Navigating Disappointment and Strengthening Connections

So, what should you do when you're confronted with a lackluster gift? First, take a breath. Remember that the disappointment is about the effort, not the material value of the gift. It's a signal that you value thoughtful gestures and genuine connections.

Express your gratitude genuinely, because the act of giving should be appreciated. Then, when the moment is right, have a conversation with the gift giver. Explain that you value the connection between you and wanted to share in meaningful exchanges. Encourage open communication and the sharing of expectations in your relationship.

The Gift of Thoughtful Intentions

When it comes to meaningful gifts, it's not just the price tag that counts. A handcrafted item, a heartfelt letter, or a thoughtfully chosen book can hold far more significance than an extravagant but impersonal purchase. Author and psychologist Gary Chapman explores the concept of love languages, emphasizing that people express and receive love in various ways, including through gift-giving. Understanding your loved one's love language can guide you in choosing the perfect, meaningful gift that resonates with their heart.

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Yes, it’s important to communicate your true feelings but, it's essential to reciprocate thoughtful gift giving, yourself. One of the best aspects you can convey through the art of gift-giving is the ability to understand the recipient's desires and needs. It shows that you pay attention to their interests, passions, and needs. Now, we aren’t saying gift giving is necessary for everyone but, if you’ve found yourself in a gift-uation then following this guide is your first step in creating sentimental bonds that save as meaningful memories.

So Noodies, do you think it's time to move beyond the worn-out cliché of "It's the thought that counts" and embrace the idea that thoughtful gifts are, indeed, a way to express love, appreciation, and connection? Feeling disappointed when thoughtfulness is absent is not only okay but a testament to your commitment to building meaningful relationships. So, the next time you're tempted to re-gift that generic scented candle, pause, and think – because in the world of gift-giving, genuine thought is the flame that warms connections and ignites new bonds — the gift itself is merely the sentimental object that brings it all together.